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Have An Affair - How to Have an Affair with Your Spouse!
by Janet Angel
Do you know that most affairs end with the married partner going back to their spouse? That's right. Although some married men and women spend months and even many years cheating on their spouses with another partner, it is quite rare for the married partner to leave his/her marriage. The risk of having an affair and being found-out by your spouse today is great. With all of the technology, spy cameras, GPS systems, car tracking systems, tollway scanners and cell phone records, it is becoming more and more risky, and quite literally, a stupid choice. Why waste the passion on a lover who you will eventually leave? Why risk the pain and embarrassment you and your family would suffer?
Instead, why not begin to remember why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place.
Most people have a difficult time breaking free of the marital traps of a stagnant sex life. Why? Because for one reason or another they have gotten into a groove of being parents, taking care of their elderly parents, working, taking care of household chores, and carrying on with responsibilities,stresses, and the worries that often accompany the good American life. How can you change that? Here are some great ways to put the fire back into your relationship. To start with HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR SPOUSE!
Be creative for starters. What would it take for you to have an affair with someone outside of your marriage? It would take imagination, sensitivity, being open to new ways of thinking, sharing, and caring, and being daring. You would certainly take a closer look at your personal image, the way you dress, wear your hair, and personal hygiene. You would become a better listener, and you would want to broaden your comfort zone. You might take some dancing lessons, decide to take up a new hobby, set up travel plans, and explore new cuisine.
When the pizzaz seems to have left your marriage, it is time to consider rekindling that flame. Don't let your children be an excuse. And for that matter, don't let your parents who now live with you, be a hinderence either. You can have a sexy relationship and fulfilling sex life with your spouse if you really try.
ROMANCE means many different things to many different people. What does it mean to you? What does it mean to your spouse? What makes you sexy? (the way you talk, the way you smell, what you read, how you dress, your body parts, where you dine...) What makes your spouse sexy? Think about the following ideas and begin to work your way through the list over a couple of months:
* Call your spouse and say something sexy, or in some cases if it works for you, something "dirty."
Ask he/she to meet you away from home if possible. Go to a place away from your neighborhood where no one will know you. Drive in two separate cars if possible. Meet in the parking lot as though you were lovers. Kiss in one or the other's car, or start in the parking lot. Move the passion into the restaurant. Hold hands, touch each other's legs under the table. Nothing too crazy. Change your names and ACT as if you are not husband and wife. Watch the stares that you get.
* Surprise your spouse with a short day trip to a nearby lake and have a picnic. Plan ahead. Bring wine, cheese, slices of fruit, crackers, cold chicken (whatever you like on a picnic), a blanket, radio/CD player, or bring a guitar if you are so inclined. Dance together, hug, kiss on your blanket. Keep it safe. Be sure that you are in a safe place because people do get mugged in remote places. Perhaps get a row boat, or go on a pontoon boat ride, do a little fishing, a bike ride. Do something different.
*Stop at a mall and choose a fragrance that you would love to smell on your spouse. If you can't afford to buy it, ask for a sample. Wrap it nicely. Buy a piece of lingerie or sexy male underwear for your partner.
*Have phone sex. You could be in the same house, in different rooms, or one could be away from home. You will start to look forward to this sexy talk.
*Make a candlelight dinner for two.
*Drive to a new indoor mall and window shop, stop for coffee, and choose a new CD together. Play it in the car on the way home.
*Cook together. Go to the grocery store and choose sexy foods. Sexy foods may be foods that increase sex drive like certain kinds of shell fish, or it can be foods that look at taste sexy to you.
Include a nice bottle of wine.
*Have sex somewhere different in your home. Like on your couch, the living room floor on a blanket, get creative. (Always close the blinds and be certain that no one will walk in on you)
*Take a shower together, or a bath together.
*Try working out together. It is amazing how many people meet sexy people at their health clubs.
*Give each other a massage with a new erotic lotion/oil that you love.
*Watch a sexy movie together.
*Go for a walk together and hold hands. Take time to notice the trees, the night sky, and the passersby.
*Take an afternoon off of work and go to the Art Institute, or some museum together. Seeing new things can stimulate your imagination.
*Go dancing
*Plan a long awaited trip. Talk with each other once a week about where you want to go, what you would like to do, and what it will be like to be far away from home and all of the day to day grind.
*At home, put the kids to sleep, then see how quietly you can have sex. Pretend that you are teenagers and your parents might walk in.
*Start making love to your spouse with words. Remember what you love about he/she. His or her eyes, skin, physique, brilliance, humor, whatever turns you on. Leave a note on the bathroom mirror before you go to work. Those sticky notes work great. Put a note in his/her drawer, on the coffee pot, his/her briefcase, inside a book, wherever he/she will read it when you are not there.
*Write a sexy love letter and mail it to your spouse. There is something special about receiving a handwritten love letter in the mail.
*Spend time learning some new activity that the two of you can share for years to come. Try something like golf, swimming, biking, hiking, bowling, play cards, learn photography, take up
bird watching, learn about gardening or yoga. Whatever you choose make it something that both people will enjoy.
*Ask your spouse out on a date and have it planned. Pick your date up and again pretend you hardly know each other.
*Storms create alot of energy, sights and sounds. Some people quite enjoy making love during a rain storm. Just watching a storm can be sexy. The power behind the lightening and thunder is stimulating to some couples.
*Send your spouse flowers or candy at work or home with a love note attached.
*Do something you normally wouldn't such as go to a sporting event. Sometimes being in a screaming
happy crowd reminds you of the enthusiasm of youth. Once your hormone levels are stimulated by all that estrogen or testosterone around you, you will start to think younger again. Watch how young people act with one another. On the other hand, if you are younger, watch how tender older people act toward one another.
*During intimate times make things new by beginning the event long before it actually happens. Then
do things differently. Try new positions, be creative; but always make sure that your partner approves of whatever it is you suggestion either verbally or by your actions.
*Make a point of touching certain body parts that stimulate your partner. Remember that touching can be erotic or irritating. Learn to read your spouse. If she/he doesn't want to be touched after a shower, don't do it. If you come up behind your spouse while she/he is combing their hair and gently kiss an ear and then fondle a meaningful body part, watch the response. You can vary the tine spent in love making. Once in a while it is good to have sex and not make love, and at other times making love by taking your time and stretching out the sequence works well.
Having an affair with your spouse can be wonderful, exhilarating, fun, and vastly rewarding. Having an affair with the person you truly love is something that can last a lifetime, create tighter bonds between you, and your entire family. When parents are happy, children can feel it, they can sense it.
Having an affair with your spouse is not just about improving your sex lives, it is about improving your lives in every way. So take it one step further and do more things together, continue to have your own interests, look forward to sharing all aspects of marriage. Honor each other by respecting each other's wishes, likes and dislikes, and supporting each other as you move through all of the phases of life and marriage.
Certainly there is so much more involved in creating the perfect love affair. This is a start. Use your imagination, your honesty, and your love to make your marriage the relationship of your dreams. You can have a sexy, long-lasting love affair with your spouse. Your spouse can be the lady or man of your dreams if you make it happen together.
True love is worth the effort...
Janet Angel is a sought-after wellness expert with advanced degrees in nutritional biochemistry and psychology. She believes that everyone needs to educate themselves on the wellness opportunities available around the world. Dr. Angel has counseled many prominent citizens across the United States and has participated in several international research programs surrounding health. She has been a guest on many radio programs, is a public speaker, author and seminar leader. Dr. Angel believes that the body has the innate abillity to heal itself in most circumstances, given the right environment, the right elements and the opportunity. For further information on her drive to help others reach their fullest potential, please go to http://www.Totallywell.com For financial wellness ideas go to http://www.LinkToCashNow.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Janet_Angel
Do you know that most affairs end with the married partner going back to their spouse? That's right. Although some married men and women spend months and even many years cheating on their spouses with another partner, it is quite rare for the married partner to leave his/her marriage. The risk of having an affair and being found-out by your spouse today is great. With all of the technology, spy cameras, GPS systems, car tracking systems, tollway scanners and cell phone records, it is becoming more and more risky, and quite literally, a stupid choice. Why waste the passion on a lover who you will eventually leave? Why risk the pain and embarrassment you and your family would suffer?
Instead, why not begin to remember why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place.
Most people have a difficult time breaking free of the marital traps of a stagnant sex life. Why? Because for one reason or another they have gotten into a groove of being parents, taking care of their elderly parents, working, taking care of household chores, and carrying on with responsibilities,stresses, and the worries that often accompany the good American life. How can you change that? Here are some great ways to put the fire back into your relationship. To start with HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR SPOUSE!
Be creative for starters. What would it take for you to have an affair with someone outside of your marriage? It would take imagination, sensitivity, being open to new ways of thinking, sharing, and caring, and being daring. You would certainly take a closer look at your personal image, the way you dress, wear your hair, and personal hygiene. You would become a better listener, and you would want to broaden your comfort zone. You might take some dancing lessons, decide to take up a new hobby, set up travel plans, and explore new cuisine.
When the pizzaz seems to have left your marriage, it is time to consider rekindling that flame. Don't let your children be an excuse. And for that matter, don't let your parents who now live with you, be a hinderence either. You can have a sexy relationship and fulfilling sex life with your spouse if you really try.
ROMANCE means many different things to many different people. What does it mean to you? What does it mean to your spouse? What makes you sexy? (the way you talk, the way you smell, what you read, how you dress, your body parts, where you dine...) What makes your spouse sexy? Think about the following ideas and begin to work your way through the list over a couple of months:
* Call your spouse and say something sexy, or in some cases if it works for you, something "dirty."
Ask he/she to meet you away from home if possible. Go to a place away from your neighborhood where no one will know you. Drive in two separate cars if possible. Meet in the parking lot as though you were lovers. Kiss in one or the other's car, or start in the parking lot. Move the passion into the restaurant. Hold hands, touch each other's legs under the table. Nothing too crazy. Change your names and ACT as if you are not husband and wife. Watch the stares that you get.
* Surprise your spouse with a short day trip to a nearby lake and have a picnic. Plan ahead. Bring wine, cheese, slices of fruit, crackers, cold chicken (whatever you like on a picnic), a blanket, radio/CD player, or bring a guitar if you are so inclined. Dance together, hug, kiss on your blanket. Keep it safe. Be sure that you are in a safe place because people do get mugged in remote places. Perhaps get a row boat, or go on a pontoon boat ride, do a little fishing, a bike ride. Do something different.
*Stop at a mall and choose a fragrance that you would love to smell on your spouse. If you can't afford to buy it, ask for a sample. Wrap it nicely. Buy a piece of lingerie or sexy male underwear for your partner.
*Have phone sex. You could be in the same house, in different rooms, or one could be away from home. You will start to look forward to this sexy talk.
*Make a candlelight dinner for two.
*Drive to a new indoor mall and window shop, stop for coffee, and choose a new CD together. Play it in the car on the way home.
*Cook together. Go to the grocery store and choose sexy foods. Sexy foods may be foods that increase sex drive like certain kinds of shell fish, or it can be foods that look at taste sexy to you.
Include a nice bottle of wine.
*Have sex somewhere different in your home. Like on your couch, the living room floor on a blanket, get creative. (Always close the blinds and be certain that no one will walk in on you)
*Take a shower together, or a bath together.
*Try working out together. It is amazing how many people meet sexy people at their health clubs.
*Give each other a massage with a new erotic lotion/oil that you love.
*Watch a sexy movie together.
*Go for a walk together and hold hands. Take time to notice the trees, the night sky, and the passersby.
*Take an afternoon off of work and go to the Art Institute, or some museum together. Seeing new things can stimulate your imagination.
*Go dancing
*Plan a long awaited trip. Talk with each other once a week about where you want to go, what you would like to do, and what it will be like to be far away from home and all of the day to day grind.
*At home, put the kids to sleep, then see how quietly you can have sex. Pretend that you are teenagers and your parents might walk in.
*Start making love to your spouse with words. Remember what you love about he/she. His or her eyes, skin, physique, brilliance, humor, whatever turns you on. Leave a note on the bathroom mirror before you go to work. Those sticky notes work great. Put a note in his/her drawer, on the coffee pot, his/her briefcase, inside a book, wherever he/she will read it when you are not there.
*Write a sexy love letter and mail it to your spouse. There is something special about receiving a handwritten love letter in the mail.
*Spend time learning some new activity that the two of you can share for years to come. Try something like golf, swimming, biking, hiking, bowling, play cards, learn photography, take up
bird watching, learn about gardening or yoga. Whatever you choose make it something that both people will enjoy.
*Ask your spouse out on a date and have it planned. Pick your date up and again pretend you hardly know each other.
*Storms create alot of energy, sights and sounds. Some people quite enjoy making love during a rain storm. Just watching a storm can be sexy. The power behind the lightening and thunder is stimulating to some couples.
*Send your spouse flowers or candy at work or home with a love note attached.
*Do something you normally wouldn't such as go to a sporting event. Sometimes being in a screaming
happy crowd reminds you of the enthusiasm of youth. Once your hormone levels are stimulated by all that estrogen or testosterone around you, you will start to think younger again. Watch how young people act with one another. On the other hand, if you are younger, watch how tender older people act toward one another.
*During intimate times make things new by beginning the event long before it actually happens. Then
do things differently. Try new positions, be creative; but always make sure that your partner approves of whatever it is you suggestion either verbally or by your actions.
*Make a point of touching certain body parts that stimulate your partner. Remember that touching can be erotic or irritating. Learn to read your spouse. If she/he doesn't want to be touched after a shower, don't do it. If you come up behind your spouse while she/he is combing their hair and gently kiss an ear and then fondle a meaningful body part, watch the response. You can vary the tine spent in love making. Once in a while it is good to have sex and not make love, and at other times making love by taking your time and stretching out the sequence works well.
Having an affair with your spouse can be wonderful, exhilarating, fun, and vastly rewarding. Having an affair with the person you truly love is something that can last a lifetime, create tighter bonds between you, and your entire family. When parents are happy, children can feel it, they can sense it.
Having an affair with your spouse is not just about improving your sex lives, it is about improving your lives in every way. So take it one step further and do more things together, continue to have your own interests, look forward to sharing all aspects of marriage. Honor each other by respecting each other's wishes, likes and dislikes, and supporting each other as you move through all of the phases of life and marriage.
Certainly there is so much more involved in creating the perfect love affair. This is a start. Use your imagination, your honesty, and your love to make your marriage the relationship of your dreams. You can have a sexy, long-lasting love affair with your spouse. Your spouse can be the lady or man of your dreams if you make it happen together.
True love is worth the effort...
Janet Angel is a sought-after wellness expert with advanced degrees in nutritional biochemistry and psychology. She believes that everyone needs to educate themselves on the wellness opportunities available around the world. Dr. Angel has counseled many prominent citizens across the United States and has participated in several international research programs surrounding health. She has been a guest on many radio programs, is a public speaker, author and seminar leader. Dr. Angel believes that the body has the innate abillity to heal itself in most circumstances, given the right environment, the right elements and the opportunity. For further information on her drive to help others reach their fullest potential, please go to http://www.Totallywell.com For financial wellness ideas go to http://www.LinkToCashNow.com
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Janet_Angel
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