To have an extramarital affair or not to have an extramarital affair?  That is the question.

Take into consideration that an affair is a dangerous thing, not only in acting it out but also in preparation for one.

An affair is basically, against all the mores and religious teaching of probably all the world's religions.  In most countries it is also against the law.

There are no set fast rules for how to have an affair.  There may be a limited number of guidebooks and websites which tend to call themselves the definitive guide to having an affair, but ultimately it's up to you to determine how and if you're going to emabark on this dangerous path.

Before beginning an affair make certain that you are sure that you can and will be able to survive the consequences of discovery.  Your affair may be discovered immediately or .....perhaps twenty years down the road.  You may have forgotten about it but somewhere, somehow it came to light.  Now your comfortable life is in jeopardy of disintegration because of something you did decades ago.

Have an affair if that is your thing, but plan carefully and expect to be caught eventually.

The only perfect way to not get caught is to not have an affair.

How to have an affair with your spouse, got ya!  You thought this was going to be about having an affair outside your marriage.  Why not have an affair within your marriage and in the process spice up your life.

Spice, probably something you haven't seen since your honeymoon.  Or the last time you both really went out to do something toatlly different.

As enticing and exciting the thought of having an affair with someone new, someone who is not your spouse may be the hard truth is that most of the people having affairs eventually return to their spouse.  That's just the way it is, this person is someone you are comfortable with, you've spent a long time with this person.  They know all your faults & foibles, all your strnghts and weaknesses.  They truly understand you so why not have an affair with them instead.  Spice up not only your life but your spouses as well.  Who knows you might rediscver & rekindle that something special you had way back then.

The best way to have an affair with your spouse is to get out of the rut you're presently in and begin thinking in a different way about the two of you.  Think about what you could do differently that you are not doing currently.  Invite her/him out for a quick lunch out of the blue.  Buy flowers or chocolate, surprise them with tickets to a movie or theater.  Begin doing things as if this was a brand new relationship.  A relationship which you want to succeed.

This new approach will lead to new adventures and will rekindle what you had in the beginning, or even something better.

There are many things, ideas which you can consider and do...
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Cheating Tips - How to Have an Affair and Not Get Caught!

If you type in "having an affair" into any search engine the likelyhood that what you'll get back is how to catch someone having an affair will be great.  Basically that's all there is out there.  What we'll try to do here is to approach it from the other side - how to have an affair without getting busted.

If you are serious about having an affair don't treat it as something that is of no consequence.  It's a huge step in your life, especially if you get caught.  Treat your interest in having an affair just like you would a military campaign.

That is- plan in advance, you can't just tell your spouse out of the blue that you're going out of town with so-and-so if you've never been out of town before.  Plan this out in detail and prepare for this month's in advance.  Create a believable set of friends or circumstances and continue living this plan.

When it's time to jump in to an affair sign up online for services which offer opportunities to hook up with others who want to have an affair.  Remember to set up a different email account which only you have access to when signing up for online services and communicating with more

What's the biggest problem with having an affair while being married?  Getting caught and everything which follows.

Today we'll discuss how to minimize the risk of getting caught and by doing so keeping your family intact.

No paper trail
Don't put anything on paper!  If going out to eat or to the hotel or something else always pay cash.  By doing so your spouse cannot connect you to anything you've been doing via receipts, hotel stationery, menus etc.  Don't pick up menus, hotel brochures and other paper information from places to which you and your spouse haven't been. Basically don't pick up anything!

Zip your lip
Keep your mouth shut! I know it's tempting to tell someone what your'e doing but the best way to get caught is to tell someone.  Do not rely on them to keep your secrets, they don't owe you that.  Eventually they'll slip and tell someone else and that person will tell someone else, etc.  You're caught, busted!

Stay away from home
You're having an affair, that's your problem but never, ever under any circumstances bring your affair to your home.  Someone will see, whether it's your spouse, your kids or your neighbor, someone will see.  Guess what? from that moment your life as you know it is over.  Welcome to pain and suffering.  Don't be stupid, keep it away from your home.

No electronic trail
Do not text or email, it's so easy for your spouse to check your phone or your email account.  If you need to email create another account which no one but you knows about and even then delete all messages as soon as possible.  Better safe than sorry.

Be picky
Don't pick the first person you like, they may be unstable or want more than you're willing to give.  Ideally, find someone who has as much to lose as you, at least then you both will work to avoid anyone finding out about your affair.

The blossoming of the internet has created many websites for those married people who are interested in dating someone else other than their spouse.  This has also led to many more people experimenting with married affairs online.

In the last several years computer technology along with convenience and privacy have allowed this area to grow rapidly.  When you can sit in your home, go online and almost instantly sign up and connect with other people who are interested in the same thing you are, mainly extramarital affairs, it becomes really simple to "meet and greet."

You can browse by geographical location, ethnic group, age or body size.  You can view their profile and photo.  In the comfort of your home, looking relaxed, perhaps unwashed and in a wrinkled shirt, you can reach out and connect with any person.  You can set up a date or a string of dates which would be very difficult if you were in a bar. Online married affairs are basically a click of the mouse away. 

Before the internet dating for married people was one of the dirty secrets out there.  If you were married and wanted to go outside your marriage then you had to sneak around and pick up whatever was available. 

Now, with a computer and internet access, you can go online and search for any type of individual that strikes your fancy.  You can look for others who are married but just want to add some spice to their lives or for people who get off on being with a married person.

Online married dating takes a lot of the sneaking around and stress away from finding someone to have just a bootycall or a somewhat longer relationship.  This type of dating gives you the opportunity to not only select from a bigger pool but also to check them out first in the comfort of your home.

Many sites have been set up to cater to dating for married people, to provide a way for those who are married and just looking to add that little bit of spice or to just get something which they may not get at home.

What is a scoundrel?  Most people would not be able to give you a clear definition of the word.  So let's try to give one here.

Per the dictionary-
Scoundrel - (noun) an unprincipled, dishonorable person: a villain
                   - (adjective) mean or base in nature; villainous; unprincipled; dishonorable

                  - origin   1580-1590 (origin uncertain)

                  - synonyms   scamp, rapscallion, miscreant, knave

Some of these synonyms are unfamiliar to me, sounds like another post is coming regarding word definitions.

In today's usage a scoundrel is someone similar to Casanova- "The World's Greatest Lover!"  A scoundrel can be defined as someone, in the relationship arena, who goes out and conquers members of the opposite sex without regard for their relationship or marital status.  Sometimes referred to as adultery.

We know these things happen and there are many dating companies which have created a business model to meet these needs.  One of these companies is Ashley Madison, probably one of the best and most effective sites in putting scoundrels together with those who want to be scoundrelized.